| Grieving and Friendship
Dear Positive Way, I have a friend whose name is the same as my son's, however my son has passed away and I have never dealt with this loss. This friend has helped me grieve this through his name. As this friend and I were colleagues we had differences of opinions. I feel that this friendship means more to me than the issues in the colleague part, however it is too late as the person is angry with me.
How do I regain this friendship, I have tried everything I know to apologize.
Thanks, signed children, age 38
Dear children, I am so sorry for your loss. The loss of a child is the most painful thing a person can experience. The grieving process never really ends and no one can really understand your pain unless they have had a similar experience. If you have not joined a loss of a child support group to date please do so. There are many out there. You could check with your local church, doctor, or social services to find a group in your area. There are also grief counselors that can help you through this process.
That was very kind and giving of your friend to help you grieve through his name. However that is an extremely stressful thing for a friend to do and that can take a toll on the friendship overall. I am sure there are many hurt feelings and differences of opinions that have caused the anger and you must be patient with this person and don't try to force a renewal of friendship at this time. Your friend needs time to work through their anger and they are also experiencing loss and grieving of their own. I had a similar question the other day "how do I regain this friendship" and I am referring you to that answer because my answer to you would be the same. Please click on the link below and read the answer from there.
http://www.positive-way.com/how_can_i_regain.htm
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