| Grieving and Friendship
Dear Positive Way, I have a friend
whose name is the same as my son's, however my son has passed away and I
have never dealt with this loss. This friend has helped me grieve this
through his name. As this friend and I were colleagues we had differences
of opinions. I feel that this friendship means more to me than the issues
in the colleague part, however it is too late as the person is angry with
me.
How do I regain this friendship, I have tried everything I know to
apologize.
Thanks, signed children, age 38
Dear children, I am so sorry
for your loss. The loss of a child is the most painful thing a person can
experience. The grieving process never really ends and no one can really
understand your pain unless they have had a similar experience. If you
have not joined a loss of a child support group to date please do so.
There are many out there. You could check with your local church,
doctor, or social services to find a group in your area. There are
also grief counselors that can help you through this process.
That was very kind and giving of your
friend to help you grieve through his name. However that is an
extremely stressful thing for a friend to do and that can take a toll on the
friendship overall. I am sure there are many hurt feelings and
differences of opinions that have caused the anger and you must be patient
with this person and don't try to force a renewal of friendship at this
time. Your friend needs time to work through their anger and
they are also experiencing loss and grieving of their own. I had
a similar question the other day "how do I regain this friendship" and
I am referring you to that answer because my answer to you would be the
same. Please click on the link below and read the answer from there.
http://www.positive-way.com/how_can_i_regain.htm
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Please understand
you have free will. This advice is given only in the realm of
personal growth and self-help. This is not to be considered a substitute
for therapy or professional counseling. We wish you well.
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