Who’s Your Ideal Mate ?
There is no single answer to this question however you can make a good start and find your own answers with this exercise:
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Find a quiet time and a quiet place. Sit down with a pencil and piece of paper and list the ten most important characteristics and/or qualities that you want in your ideal mate. See article Identifying What You are Looking For. Rating Internet Dating Sites
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Now describe what they are like: their personality, their appearance, what they do, what they like and don’t like, and so on.
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Put the list away for a while. Come back to the list and imagine what it would be like living with this person for 20+ years. Ask yourself questions such as the following:
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Will their good looks fade? The better question is “when” not “if.”
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Would that personality trait you liked such as a strong, dominant become overbearing?
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How long would it be before that “free spirit” you enjoy now appear to be irresponsible?
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What will you do when you change and grow? What will happen to the relationship?
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Are your principles and values being satisfied with this person in the long term?
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Why would my relationship with someone like this last for a lifetime?
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Now rewrite your list of characteristics and create a new description.
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Visualize this person and look for them in each new person that you meet. You will now have a better idea of where to look. Do, however, keep an open mind. Even the most perfectly visualized ideals are sometimes satisfied by good people in disguise.
