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Responding and
connecting continued
Now is the time to
engage in light conversation and to
match
your body language
to theirs.
The more you can get the other person to talk about themselves while you
show sincere interest, the more they are likely to like you. Show
interest by listening. See our section on
listening skills.
Test your listening skills and see how
you do on this often overlooked part of communication.
Maybe – 19 body
language clues that say “yes or maybe”
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Sidelong
glance(s)
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Looks at you a
few times
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Holds your gaze
briefly
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Downcast eyes,
then away
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Posture changes
to erect
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Preens, adjusts
hair, attire
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Picks lint (real or imaginary) off
your clothes
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Turns body
toward you
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Tilts head
slightly to one side
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Narrows eyes
slightly
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Smiles
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Matches your
posture
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Eyes sparkle
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Licks lips
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Strong, firm
handshake
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Natural tone,
volume, pitch and pace of voice
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Altering facial
expressions to match what is said (smiling when being friendly, etc.)
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Relaxed upright
posture, arms swinging naturally while walking
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Nods
No way – 23 body
language clues that say “not yet or no way”
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Never sneaks a peek
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Fleeting eye contact
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Looks away, eyes level
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Posture unchanged or slumps
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Turns body away
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Moves away
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Does no preening
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Arms Folded /
Legs Crossed
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Head remains
vertical
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Shifting eye
movement or rapid changing of focus/direction
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Neutral, polite
face or negative expression
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Normal or dull
eyes
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Keeps mouth
closed
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Leans back and
looks down
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Limp, weak
handshake
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Leans in too
close
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Weak, soft voice
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Stars at other
person during silences
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Maintains eye
contact too long (over 7-10 seconds)
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Rigid, stooped
posture, feet shuffling
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Folded arms,
crossed legs, picking lint off own clothing
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Twiddles thumbs,
drums fingers
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Clenches or
wrings hands, plays with jewelry
When in doubt
If you are in doubt about what is being said, the best course of action is
to ask for clarification. “I sense you are (preoccupied, nervous,
distracted, concerned, etc.), would you like me to (leave, talk to you
another time, ask for a dance later, etc.). Thanks for the chance to
meet if even for a moment.” People really appreciate honesty and
sensitivity. You have a chance to gauge their reaction to what you
have said and perhaps build a relationship from there. Communication
is the foundation of all relationships. We encourage building
communication skills.
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