Rejection and Self-respect

Dear Positive Way, Yesterday I asked a question on "pushing friendships".  Would you say there is a void in someone's life if the person doesn't want to be your friend?  I feel it takes away my self-esteem and want to ensure I stay within myself respect regardless. Hope you can advise? Thank you!

Dear Self-respect, No I don't think there is a void in someone's life just because they don't welcome in a new friend.  However when someone does reject another person for any reason it is because of their own issues or judgments and it has very little to do with the other person.  Your self respect should not be affected if someone rejects you - that rejection defines them not you and I find that it helps when you say silently to yourself "that is about them and not about me and it is their loss".   Don't allow other people's judgments or opinions define you or rate your self-respect.  Be the best person you can be for yourself and you will draw those people that are meant to be in your life and others will fade away.  Some people enter our lives for a few days, some for a few months, and others for a few years.  There are life lessons to be learned from all people that we encounter even if it is for just a few hours.  Try to see the lesson and then move on.  I wish you well.

Please understand you have free will.  This advice is given only in the realm of personal growth and self-help. This is not to be considered a substitute for therapy or professional counseling.  We wish you well.