He started avoiding me.
Dear Positive Way, Hi, I just want an advice of my issue, i had a
love affair with a guy in 2004, we had a great time with his family
members and the life was so cool.
But, suddenly after an year he started avoiding me saying some reasons
but the actual reason was his best friend who didn't like me i spoke
with his friend made him clear that i'm not going to effect their
friendship he is not listening me. But i truly love my boy friend i
cannot stay without him. .I spoke with him recently he started shouting
at me saying not to call. Please help me i want him at least as a
friend Please I'm waiting for him from July 2005 thinking that he will
come back............ I'm ready to wait for another one year but I need
his luv.
I can give u one example how much he loved me, he had a cell phone with
airtel connection he lost it after that he didn't go for a connection at
all then we struggled a lot to get back the same connection i asked him
to choose some other number but he said that he doesn't want to loose
this number which was responsible for our affair. But now he is acting
crazy. All my friends spoke with him but he is not changing his
intention the only sentence he says is " Its not going to happen i can't
marry u" JUST LEAVE ME MIND U'RE WORK.i will be awaiting for u're
reply. signed, shink022, age 22
Dear shink022:I understand your
hurt over this situation. When you truly love someone and they
stop returning those feelings it can be very devastating for the
person being rejected. Here are some things I would like for you to
consider:
1. Not all relationships are meant to
last a lifetime. People will enter our lives for a few days, some for
a few months, and some for a few years. Each of those people have
something to teach us and some life lessons to offer. Ask yourself
"what did I learn from this man and this relationship?"
2. You cannot force a relationship or
feelings to come back. All relationships change over time and this
one has changed and he is telling you that he is no longer the one for
you. Don't live in denial any longer about this. He has made it
clear and why would you want him back if he doesn't feel the same as
he did before.
4. There is the "right mate" for you
that will be your long term partner. The sooner you move forward and
stop hanging on to false hope with this guy the sooner you will meet
the mate that is meant to be yours for the future. Learn from this
relationship instead of trying to get back with him.
Please read our articles on
Self-esteem and
work on building yours up so you won't feel the need to put your life
on hold waiting for someone that has made it clear he is not the one
for you. Anytime you try to "force a relationship" there will be
negative results. Move on and stop waiting for this guy. You
deserve better. I didn't meet my ideal mate until I was 35 after many
serious relationships in between and one marriage. Give yourself some
time and learn from this and move on so the right mate can enter your
life.
