Fighting Fair Evaluation Guide
The way you handle conflict with your friends and lovers will ultimately determine how
the relationship develops in the long term. It’s no surprise that we get what we give
and yet there are too many people that insist on fighting dirty and ruining everything.
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Manual Version of the Fighting Fair Evaluation Guide:
The following questions are designed to give you some insight into how you and your
friends or lovers deal with conflict and disagreements together. We recommend that you and
your partner complete this form separately and then come together to compare them and have
a heart to heart discussion about how to improve the way you, as a couple, handle
conflict.
INSTRUCTIONS: Think about how you and one specific person handle
disagreements and write in the number that you think is representative of how often
this occurs.
Give yourself a score as follows: 1 = never, 2 = rarely, 3 =
sometimes, 4 = often, 5 = very often.
behavior |
score |
| We fight. |
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| We name call. |
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| Things get out of control when we argue. (One of us gets nasty
or abusive.) |
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| There are bad feelings for a long time afterward |
|
| Past issues from your current relationship come up during
disagreements. |
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| There’s frustration even before we deal with problems. |
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| We forget what we’re fighting about but continue to fight. |
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| One of us must win. |
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| We place blame.
|
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| Neither of us listens to the other. |
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| TOTAL (Add up your scores.) |
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