More Teamwork Trouble

The Question: 

Dear Business Solutions,

Sometimes I find it difficult when I don't agree with decisions the team makes.  I would like to learn to be a good team player.  I advocate, however how can I also learn to back off and respect the team's decision?  It is difficult as it is about children and I find that I am working with people who may not share my interest or may not understand the early childhood perspective.  Please advise.  Signed, Team Member.

Our Response:

Dear Team Member, teams do tend to complication the communication process which, as you know, can be difficult at times.  Here are some things for you to consider:

1.  You ask “...how can I also learn to back off and respect the team’s decision?”  Fundamentally, respect is earned or granted.  Unless the team is disregarding the welfare of the children and making poor decisions, it is up to you to choose whether you wish to respect the decision or not.  If you choose not to, the implications may be that something wrong is being done and further action on your part may be required (e.g. appealing to a higher authority).  At the same time, consider that your feelings may be about the way you are being treated (not listened to, treated like a full member of the team, discounted professionally, etc.) and not the decision itself.  If that is the case, you can work on establishing your credentials and position on the team or change the way you interact (communicate) with the team to obtain a better outcome.

2.      Effective teams work with a set of ground rules and objectives.  Here is a discussion on the subject: Teamwork Trouble

3.      There are some excellent books on teamwork and team building. I strongly suggest that you take a look at them.  Four of them are listed on this link along with teamwork guidelines:

4.      Communication skills can help you and your team members improve the process and the outcomes.  I suggest you read the following articles and adapt the methods to your situation: Winning Communication, Handling Conflict and Communication Articles.

5.      Look for allies who share your level of understanding.  Consider having tutorials for the team through outside experts.  They may be more receptive to hearing from an outsider.  That might take some of the burden from your shoulders.