Am I right?

Dear Positive Way, I found out that my husband cheated on me.  I told him that i will forgive him  if he stop contact with his girlfriend.  He agreed at first.  A week later, they still talking to each other how they love and live together.  I walked out and we file a divorce.  I have children.  He called me few times and wanted to make up with me.  At that time, I can't make up my mind yet because I don't know what to do.  I called him later and told him that what he said make me think and I agreed to go back with him only if he is really mean to stop with her  and we will live together and stop the divorce. He did not want to stop the divorce. My question is I did my parts, give up myself, do what I can to save my marriage and  because of our children, but he did not give me any choices here.  I don't have to regret it since he did not want our marriage back.  Am I right? signed, haithidang, age 18

Dear haithidang, Yes, you are right.  You did your part in trying to save the marriage.  You were willing to forgive your husband and make a fresh start and he broke his promise and continued the affair.  When there is cheating in a relationship, the only way the relationship can work again is if both people are 100 percent committed to making the relationship work and both people are willing to do the work necessary to regain trust and build the foundation for a an honest and loving relationship.  Your husband is showing that he is not 100 percent committed to you or the relationship.  It can't work unless he is. We have many articles on our site that can help you with seeing things more clearly and moving forward.  Please check out our many articles on our home page and read from there.  I wish you well.

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