| Dear Positive Way, my
husband left after a 25 years marriage, he was cheating and left me for this
woman. I would like to move on with the first boyfriend I ever had, his wife
did the same to him. He loves me very much but I am hesitating to move on
even though I love him. Why? He can offer me a good life together. I could
never take my ex back, apparently this is not the first time he cheated. Am
I not healed yet? Signed, Gem Gem, age 48
Dear Gem Gem, You may never be
completely healed from the hurt that was caused in your first marriage.
That doesn't mean you can't move on and have a good life with the man you
are with now. Anytime we have been betrayed by the ones we love it
hurts so deeply and those wounds take a very long time to heal. With
that said a new love can help heal those wounds over time. Allow
yourself time to enjoy your new love and don't beat yourself up for still
feeling pain and hurt over your past relationship. That is normal. If
you get the chance please read our articles on
Forgiveness, , Rebuilding after Divorce,
Change and Grow, and Create
a New Beginning. I think you will find the information helpful.
Also if you are finding it difficult to heal and move forward don't hesitate
to seek professional counseling. They can help you along the way.
Also there is a great book that we recommend
often to people trying to
recover from Divorce. "Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends"
by Bruce Fisher. We have included
a direct link for the book below if you are interested in reading it.
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Please understand
you have free will. This advice is given only in the realm of
personal growth and self-help. This is not to be considered a substitute
for therapy or professional counseling. We wish you well.
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