Dear Positive Way,
I've been dating a 47 yr old man for 4 months who has been divorced for
about 10 months. I have full custody of my eight yr old. I am 42,
having dated in 2 yrs and have been divorced for 3 yrs. I work
full-time (high-stress) run a home, school work etc. He is practically
living at my house, which I've stated I don't want in front of my son
and he wants to have sex at least 2 times everyday or at least daily.
If I say I'm a little tired, he gets angry. We have been having sex at
least 8 times a week and it's never enough. He tells me that I'm not
normal. I'm above average in looks and economically in the upper
class--- I've never had this said to me by anyone or had someone demand
sex from me. He says if I don't he'll leave me??? I'll give him a
quick peck on the lips and he'll say that's not how he wants it, he
wants a passionate kiss? He wants to be part of the Mile High club? My
friends all say lose him- he's demanding, controlling and your just
starting. Am I looking at this all wrong? My older brother told me to
by him a blow-up doll. Please help- it's making me question my own
sexuality? signed, Serje01 age 42
Dear Serje01,
there is nothing wrong with you but there is something off with the man
you are dating. Let this man go. Things will only get worse over
time. He is showing you signs of emotional abuse that could lead to
physical abuse. Let him go and protect yourself and your children. Sex
does not equal love at all. This man is only into sex and in my opinion
does not have the ability or desire to sustain a relationship in the
long run. You are not the problem in this relationship but he is. Let
him go.
